Guest Post|Just Be You

Just Be You

Ever since I can remember I had always hated the way I looked. I was always the shortest and slowest kid in my class and I weighed more than the other girls in my class and was never popular.

I was bullied for everything! Being smart, being fat and having a deformity. I was born with two thumbs on the same hand. One thumb was removed but the one that remains doesn’t look like a thumb. I always thought it is something to do with me, I am wrong. I even stopped eating for a week to make myself thin, till my mom took me to the doctor’s and I got scared.

I carried this hate with me till the age of 25, that was when I discovered the plus size community. I finally found people just like me, bigger men and women who embraced their bodies instead of punishing themselves. They said “I love myself, and you can too”. Everything before them was “I used to hate myself, but then I lost weight and now I love myself”. I had tried every diet going and I just didn’t stick to them.

I began reading blogs and looking at people on social media and thinking I want to be like them. When I was 27 I finally thought I need to stop hurting myself with my words and thought of how much I hate my body. I decided every day I would spend a couple minutes looking in the mirror and pick 1 thing that I like about myself, either physically or emotionally. Then I would look at myself and say it.

I started with my nose, it may sound silly but it is probably the only feature I have never had a problem with, I think it is very cute, quite button like, so I would just say it to myself, “I have a very nice nose”, being totally truthful I felt like an idiot the first few times I did it, because I thought people would laugh at me but no one saw me, no one knew what I did, so how would they laugh?

Every couple of days I would change what I loved and now when I look in the mirror all I see is the positives, I see a face that has pretty eyes and a cute nose, a mouth that has got me in trouble sometimes, but also helps me speak my mind. A body that lets me walk around and have fun and takes me places I want to go, a body that my husband loves.

Now I am older and a lot more confident in my body, I understand it isn’t about accepting fat people, it’s about accepting everyone. So not hating yourself because you’re fat or thin, it’s about loving yourself for being different. You are amazing and there is no one else like you in the whole world. So you do you and do what is best for you. Just do you and be happy with who you are. If everyone was alike in this cookie cutter society it would be a very boring world! Let your difference make you who you are.

Love you lots ❤️

Lottie

Xxx

Lottie Corbett is a wife and lover of all things food related!! Make up, Body Confidence and Lifestyle blogger. Connect with Lottie using the following links below:

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Inspiration|Am I Beautiful?

Inspiration| Am I beautiful?

Should I have to ask this question every morning and every night? Who really holds the key to measure my beauty? Is it the people that sell me my hair or my clothes? Is my beauty determined by the amount of friends I have or the amount of likes that I get on social media? Why does the word beautiful bring people so much fear? Is it because of how society has burned their beauty image in our mind? What really makes me beautiful? What really makes us as women beautiful? Is it fake nails? Fake eyelashes? Is it our makeup? If no one ever told you BEAUTY is, beauty is what’s in your heart. Beauty is how you treat people to make them feel special. Beauty is saying everything without saying nothing at all. Beauty is….what YOU determine it is. BEAUTY is you!

Inspiration|FEARLESS

What does it take to remove that bubble in your stomach when you meet new people?? Or maybe when you’re dating someone or starting a new job? Being fearless is saying NO to fear. Saying no to self-doubt or just saying no to defeat. Remember you are a winner. Forget about the things you failed at and remember all the things you accomplished. Go out and conquer the world~FEARLESS!

Inspiration|TIME

The truth about time is simple-DONT WASTE YOUR TIME. Don’t waste time on people that could care less about you, your intelligence, your beauty or your talents. Don’t waste time being vindictive or malicious. Use time wisely to grow and mature. Don’t waste time wondering or waiting because those are seconds, minutes or hours that you can’t get back. Time is precious. Time is quick. Do yourself a favor and don’t waste your TIME!

Inspiration| Smile

There are many things in life that we can not do effectively. There are things in life that we learn from others. There are somethings in life that requires we learn through higher education. Beauty however requires no education and you don’t have to pay for it. When time allows…. When life allows, please take a moment and SMILE.

Inspiration|Nothing to Lose

Nothing to Lose

Sometimes we don’t realize until it’s too late that people that we call our “ride or die” peeps are really not our ride or dies. As much as we would like to think they would take a bullet for us, truth is they really wouldn’t. Better yet the people that say they have our backs really don’t. We all love to feel that we have the one person in our corner but we’ve never really stop to check what are their motives are for being so clingy. Or we never question why are they really in your presence. Truth is some of us never evaluate who’s in our circle and why. We never ask ourselves who benefits from our connections. We never really notice until it’s too late that you’re the person in the friendship or relationship giving your all. You’re the real ride or die. You’re the person having everyone’s best interest at heart. The reason why people latch on to you is not for you to benefit but it’s because THEY benefit from you. Stop doubting who you are. Stop minimizing your dreams and goals to fit in with people who have everything to gain from you and have NOTHING TO LOSE in the process.

Guest Blog|3 Reasons Why Women….

When thinking of what to write to make women feel empowered I thought I would just do a post about 3 reasons why women are amazing. Just in case no one has told you all before we are truly amazing unique creatures. So let’s get started shall we!

 

  • The first reason why women are amazing is because we are very persistent people and when I say persistent I mean committed. More like determined. Obviously some people will argue that everyone are the same but that’s really not true. When  women want something, we don’t stop until we get it. Be persistence and determination is a trait for all women to have because both qualities bring about success……unless your speaking of a crime or something dangerous then DON’T DO IT! lol

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  • Secondly, as women I feel that we all have something to give. Like I said in the first point not everyone’s the same and we all are different. We all bring something something unique and different to the table. You know the saying “you have to shake what your mama gave ya” well at least that’s what I was told, moving on! 

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  • The last but certainly not least reason as to why I think women are amazing creatures is because we are so welcoming to each other. We embrace our differences whether that is height, weight, skin color, body type, hair color whatever it is, we are all beautiful no matter the way we look and that is something we should all remember.

Hi everyone!

Over on my blog I do several posts on what I am up to and whatever is on my mind and think my readers would be interested in seeing. In simpler terms my blog is basically like my weird internet diary…kind of!  If you guys don’t know who I am my name is Izzy from the blog Let’s chat with Izzy. I am a new guest writer for the Women With Gifts.  Please use the following links to connect with me! 

Anyway, I hope you have enjoyed this little introductory post from me so you get the feel of what is yet to come in the future. I will leave the link to my blog and all my socials below. Make sure to stick around for amazing stuff from me and the other brilliant women at WWG

Thanks for reading,

Izzy

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Inspiration|Hello August

Every new month is a new beginning. Beginning to build connections…new friendships. Water existing plants 🌺. Plant new flowers. Clean out your closets. Donate unused clothes. Love unconditionally throughout the month. Take time to learn. Read a book. Watch positive tv shows. Speak positive of others. Dress in bright colors. Take vacations and drink lots of green tea. Learn from others. Learn from your mistakes and most of all love who you are!

Guest Post|You Are ENOUGH!

All humans are different and unique, this is what makes us beautiful and also one of our downfalls. Even twins as alike as they are will always have something that makes them different but instead of appreciating our uniqueness, we find ways to make it an avenue to feel less than.
beauty within

Instead of appreciating the fact that I’m different from someone, I begin to compare myself to the person and feel less because the person is slimmer than me or thicker or has a different hair texture or height and this ends up having a negative effect on me.

As a hair and fitness blogger, I have read stories of people who started hair journeys, weight loss or weight gain journeys because they wanted to look more like an image or please someone and it ended up draining them emotionally leaving them unsatisfied even if they accomplished their goal.

We should learn to appreciate ourselves the way we are, if you ever want to change anything it should be for you and because you want to be the best version of yourself and not for anybody else.

Self love is important, you can’t love other people or accept love from people if you don’t love yourself first and it has to be intentional because it is very easy to get carried away in this world where there is an idolized body type or persona. Constantly remind yourself that you were made the way you are for a reason, you can’t be someone else neither can anyone be you.

Write a list of things you love about yourself and paste it somewhere you can see and read it daily, leave space so you can write more things as they come and always remember that it’s your individuality that makes you you. You are special, you are beautiful, you are limited edition and you are more valuable than Gold.

Hello!
My name is Toni Adebisi, an 18 year old student of anatomy. I am a hair and fitness blogger and a story writer. I love helping people in any way I can and working to be a psychiatrist.

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