6 Amazing Benefits Of Learning To Love Yourself
There are days I wake up and think to myself: is this it? This face of mine, this bundle of good and bad traits, this human with all it’s flaws and good intentions is me and I have to live with myself forever. I am 53 years old, and the truth that each day brings new wrinkles to my changing face, another grey hair to my once golden locks is getting harder to ignore. I try to remind myself that aging should be revered as a gift. You should, at this age, or any age to be precise, finally learn to love and accept yourself.
I have stated many times that your journey is one of self-awareness and self-discovery. It’s about loving yourself enough that we can love others. Loving yourself is having a deeper appreciation for who we are as individuals and human beings. It means appreciating and accepting all the different parts of ourselves that create the whole person. This includes our flaws, our oddness at times, and the things we may not do well.
No matter how much the hardest of hearts among us deny this – we all have a desire to be loved. Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect our journey to play out. When it doesn’t go as planned, we want to blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong… that’s not what it’s about.
We have to learn to accept the entire package. Unconditionally.
Sadly, there are many whose love of themselves depends on whether they get that job or raise they’ve wanted. Whether they lost the right amount of weight, or finally captured that elusive dream date we’ve had our eye on. We put to many conditions on our love. We need to change that and love ourselves now, just as we are.
When you finally start accepting and loving yourself more each day, you will find your life getting better. You start experiencing a life and journey you haven’t experienced in a long time. You will start to feel better physically and emotionally. You will find that your relationships are improving. The negative relationships will start to dissolve and be replaced with new, more positive ones.
This is where learning to love yourself comes in – and that comes with some incredible benefits, here are six.
Instead of making bad choices because you’re being led by shame, guilt or fear – you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are – meaning you will be living your authentic life. You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction. Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.
Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive. Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to your relationship with others. You start to see who is wasting your time and you’re strong enough to move forward without them. More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.
When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you – which means you’re a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you. Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?
Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don’t truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow. It’s easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you.
A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they’re terrified of feeling or being alone. You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work, and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness. Why would you do all of the things that you don’t love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing – whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing or watching a movie. It doesn’t need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you’re spending time in your own company.
You don’t need to find happiness in relationships, whether they’re romantic or not. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself. When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier. If you’re not in a romantic relationship you will find that you aren’t as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don’t need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.
Never stop being in charge of your life. Willing to love yourself has to start today, because if you don’ t today, you won’t tomorrow. Whatever reasons or excuses you have today, you will still have tomorrow. You may still have the same excuses 20 years from now, eventually living your lifetime holding on to them.
Start loving yourself today with no expectations. Just as we can choose anger, hate or sadness, we can choose love. We can choose forgiveness to finally heal from past hurt. We can also choose to be grateful for what we have. With all our choices, we must choose love. It’s always a within us. It All Starts with You.
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