A Woman’s Guide to Finding “Me Time”
I know this year I was determined to put “Me Time” at the top of my list of goals to accomplish. Honestly, I have found trying to find even the smallest amount of time, 15-30 minutes a day, is challenging.
They say a woman’s work is never done, and they are right, it never is! A hectic work schedule, combined with trying to balance other areas of our lives, may lead to you feeling like you are spinning too many plates in the air at once.
With kids, family, work, chores, and the many responsibilities that we have to fulfill, there never seems to be enough time to think about, never mind actually fulfill our own needs or desires.
This can lead to women experiencing depression, anxiety, or just a general feeling that they are worn out. Besides how it affects us personally, being worn out also means that your performance and attentiveness to all you have to do will suffer. Irritation becomes common, as we feel overwhelmed and unable to deal with the stressors of the day.
“Me Time” allows us to de-stress, unwind and rejuvenate. Taking time for yourself allows you to renew, heal, and create reserves of energy and peace. No matter how you go about your day, and no matter what you do, there are still only 24 hours in a day. “Me Time” is not something you should feel guilty about.
Everyone is different, and each individual has different ideas about how to find time for ‘me’. I wanted to inspire you to make some “Me Time”. My me time is my blog. After a long infuriating day dealing with the public, I come home and find my peace and inspiration in my writing.
The solutions below are not the only ones but they may give you some ideas of how to find space and time in your life.
You must decide that you deserve this time to yourself each day.
You can’t feel guilty about taking time for you. You need to remember that in the long run, this is a win-win for everyone. Self-time is not selfish-time. This is a necessary element in your self-care habits.
What are the things you are wasting your time on every day?
Whether at work or at home, are you constantly on the computer, reading emails, taking personal calls in the middle of the workday? Instead of heading straight home, are you stopping at the supermarket for that night’s dinner instead of planning meals in advance? If this is your daily routine, you must make time to organize your daily responsibilities and you will gain more free time than you can imagine.
What is the best way to spend “Me Time”?
How you choose to spend your free time is as individualized as every person blessed with that free time. If there were an extra 20 minutes, a full afternoon, or an entire day, what would you choose to do? Keep a list handy when you are planning out your week on the calendar, and follow through with planning at least one of those items.
Do something (or nothing) that completely let’s go of responsibilities and releases your mind, allowing you to be alone with your thoughts.
Utilize the time you have.
If you have errands to run or appointments to keep but find yourself early or waiting around in your car, make use of the time. For example, read a book (hard copy or get Kindle on your phone) or practice meditation. These two activities require a certain amount of tranquility and peace, so why not use your window of opportunity to do this. Of course, you could just listen to some music and relax.
Alternatively, if you are in a more productive mood you could just catch up on paperwork that you have to do. This is your time; you can do with it what you wish, as long as you are enjoying it and it is rejuvenating. By carrying out this task now, you are freeing up time at a later date.
Make a date with yourself, and keep it!
Once a week, take time to do the things you like to do alone. To do this you need to learn to say no to the people in your life, or learn to delegate your duties to someone else. This will enable you to have some time to relax.
Go and grab a coffee somewhere, get some exercise, or even just disappear to another part of the house. Anything you can think of to do that would enable you to free up space in that busy head of yours.
This can simply be an extension of the previous where you make a date with yourself. Once a month, go treat yourself, this can be anything you wish, such as shopping, a spa day, a movie, or even just spending time with your friends, catching up on their lives. This is totally your choice. Go and see the great outdoors, spend a day cycling. The point is this is “me time”.
You would think that these tips on finding “me time” would be obvious. However, this time can often be difficult to find. A 2014 UK study looking at working mothers found 51% of them went weeks without relaxing on their own.
When further questioned, nearly 75% of the 2000 women felt they lived their whole lives for other people. Some women are lucky enough to have partners and family to rely on to take the strain; others are not so fortunate. However, there are still things you can do to make time in your life.
Learn to say no.
No, means setting boundaries and limiting what you will or are willing to do in a single day or week. This may mean having to say no to some things, but considering how much your wellness matters, it may be worth it.
Create a daily routine.
Take a bath, create a spa moment, take a walk, listen to music…as long as it is something you will look forward to.
Years ago, when my children were younger and life was way too hectic and overwhelming, I created a ritual for “me time”. I decided to get up 30 minutes before the rest of the family to enjoy my coffee and breakfast in solitude. Still today, it’s my time to read, daydream or just enjoy the sounds of silence. Looking forward to this time, gets me out of bed with a smile on my face.
By planning your day and week you can identify opportunities for “me time”. Making lists and looking at your week would help you to see those times where gaps appear in your schedule. Organization can be the key to doing this.
The more you practice doing this the more you will learn where you can fit things in. It could be as simple as going for a walk for 20 minutes.
On that walk, take a look at the world around you. We live in beautiful world, whether it is a flower or a smile on a person’s face. It is all there for us, you just need to be able to see it. Instead of continuing to wish you had more time to yourself, commit to it. You will be amazed at what a little “me time” can do for your health and happiness.
Now go get yourself some “me time”. It All Starts with You!
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