My name is Elena and I am 23 years old. I was born in Romania and moved to Canada with my family at only 11 years old. As much as I love Canada, I live in one of the poorer provinces, which if you know much about Canada’s economy, is not a financial friendly place to live. After completing high school, I’ve watched many of my friends move across the country in search of securing employment and creating a better future for themselves and their future families. I was one of the people who chose to stay in the province and continue my education, before deciding were I wanted to plant my roots.
In 2014, I was accepted and attended Mount Allison University with the hope to obtain a Bachelor of Science. Shortly after enrollment, I discovered that even though I was good at science, this was not something I could see myself doing until retirement. As I was second guessing my decision, I received the news that a close family member passed away. This was a big turning point in my life.
Only two months after the beginning of my first year of university, I decided to drop out. I was not in an ideal place mentally, and I was struggling financially. Without a job, bills pilling up, and now a student loan on my back, I decided to return home and try to find full time employment. This turned out to be more challenging then I expected. I come from a small town, where jobs are few and far between, so the best I could do is obtain a job at a local grocery store working 20 hours per week.
As I was falling further and further into debt, I decided to move across the country, in hopes of obtaining more stable employment. However, after arriving there, I realized that getting a full-time job with just a High School Diploma can be next to impossible. As I was searching for job, I started to miss my hometown more and more. I learned that this part of the country wasn’t for me, and that I wanted to return to my beautiful small town as soon as possible. This motivated me more to search harder for a job; my plan was to bring myself up to date with my bills and then return home.
Eventually, I was able to secure a position at a fast-food restaurant. It wasn’t ideal, but it was a source of income. I worked very hard and paid off some of my debt. In only two months, I was able to return back to my home province. At this time, my boyfriend and I decided to get our own apartment. It was a big change for me, and yet another reason why I needed to find a job as soon as possible.
At first, I was able to get back my previous position at the grocery store. As this was only part time, and now I had more expenses than before due to ranting an apartment, I was constantly looking for more work. A couple months into my search, I obtained a second part time job at a local gas station. Shortly after, they offered me a full-time position, which I believed to be a huge accomplishment at that point. However, I was still not happy. I knew I was capable of more and I wanted to prove myself.
A few months later, another full-time position opened up, this time at a trucking company. I was offered the position, working from home. I couldn’t have been happier. I felt like I was slowly moving up and finding a career that I will love. However, the position required me to work nights, which at first, I did not mind. Eventually, my health problems started increasing, and the doctor suggested that working nights may not be ideal for me at this time.
I took the doctors advice into account and started looking for yet another position. A few months later, I was able to obtain an 8-5 position in an office. I couldn’t have been happier. Everything was going great at first. I loved my coworkers, I loved the environment, and most importantly, I loved that I finally had a “grown up” job. But once again, this was not the ideal job for me. There was no place of advancement in the company, and I was scared of being stuck in a dead-end job.
At this time, I did the one thing I could think of, and that was return to school. I was tired of constantly looking for a job and never feeling quite fulfilled with my life. In April 2018, I enrolled into a two-year paralegal course at a local college. I was hesitant at first, given my prior experience with university, however, I soon discovered that I loved the college environment so much more. For once, I felt like I actually belong.
However, life was not all roses. Is it ever? Living on a student loan alone, is next to impossible. So, once again, I have been looking for temporary jobs to supplement my income. This time, I’ve had an even harder time finding employment that I could fit around my schedule.
As I was scrolling through social media one night. I stumbled across one of those 5-day course to starting your own blog. I’ve seen this add many times before, but this time something told me to click on it. And I am so glad I did. Even though I was cautious as first, I did think about the potential this could have. However, I wasn’t sure what I would even write about. I’m only a 20 something years old, with technically nothing more than a high school education.
But then I thought back on my life and all the experiences I’ve had. I thought about how I could share my struggles with education and try to help others who may be going through similar situations. I thought about my financial situation, and how I have been making ends meet with even a very limited income. I’ve thought about my relationship with my boyfriend that I’ve been dating for five years, as well as my friends that I’ve had since I moved to Canada. I’ve also thought about my struggles with mental health, as well as physical health, and how I’ve been managing everything over the last few years. The more I was thinking, the more all those pieces started coming together.
That very night, I went ahead and bought my own domain. The very next day, I was already working very hard to keep up with the course and create my blog. Exactly, 4 days later, on January 6th, 2019, I launched Pending Adulthood. It was a very exciting and intimidating experience, but so rewarding. I was so nervous of putting myself and my life story on display for everyone to read, but I am so happy I did.
Pending Adulthood has been an incredible success so far. The blog keeps consistently growing, and it’s well on its way to meeting all my targeted goals. I am so happy I finally found something where I feel like I belong. I cannot wait to share more of my life with the world and hopefully help at least one person that may be going through a similar situation.
You can find me on my blog, and all major social media platforms!