This post is about women by a woman. Women of power, women who have suffered, women who have paved the way and women who have known when silence was key. This post is for all the great women of our past and the ones of our present and future. We are the voice of reason, backbone, and light of this world…and don’t you ever forget it.
When I initially read the question for this post, “as a woman, what would you share that makes you different from any other woman?”, my mind immediately went to what makes me the same as other women. So, I wrote the post and then rewrote it a few times, attempting to answer that question. However, I still, I could not extinguish the fire burning deep in my soul, that said, “write about what you’d share, but what makes you alike”.
One word kept resonating in mind, that word was, ‘strength’. That is what I would share about myself. My sense of strength. It is a strength I thank my ancestors for daily. I do not believe my sense of strength makes me any different from other women. All women have had to bear untold stores, suffered inequality and still rise up with grace and poise. I believe all women share this strength whether they are aware of it or not.
There is a quote by Matt Baker that says, “She never seemed shattered; to me she was a break taking mosaic of battles she’d won.” I wish I had heard this quote sooner! For a long time, I thought I was shattered and damaged goods. An unmarried single mother, who hadn’t finished college. Who would want me, and the child I adored? Someone did and does! I wanted me! I realized, my strength was one of the most beautiful things about me as a person and woman. I realized I may not be able to teach my daughter calculus but I could teach her that she came from a line of female warriors, visionaries, pioneers and explorers! I could teach her that strength comes from within and has no limits. I could and would teach here that she is enough! That she was a beautiful mosaic of battles won, not broken nor shattered.
I have suffered in emotionally abusive relationships, I have suffered a miscarriage, I have suffered the loss of a father at 16 years old, I have suffered child birth, I have suffered at the hand of racism, I have suffered in silence and out loud. But my strength, the sense of resilience that was instilled in me from a young child, has made me the woman of truth and strength that I am today. If I were to share anything with other women that makes me different from myself, I would share my experiences that make me different. But the pain or feeling of bliss are the same as any other woman.
So, here’s to all you ladies. Being a woman is about YOU feeling like a woman, not what others make you feel. You are a bold force, a rebel with a cause, a King and Queen, a slayer of dragons. You don’t need a prince to save you, you’ve the strength of any man. Whoever this may touch, whoever this may reach, please continue to push on, for you never know who is watching you or who you are inspiring.
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