The Importance of Self-Love

As women, we’re filled with doubt and worry as to who we’ll be and where we’ll go in life. There’s no logic behind this doubt, but it’s there. All of this is placed from a negative energy you treat yourself with. Every little wrong move judged, every curve or freckle judged but only by yourself. You can either be your own worst enemy or your own biggest fan. Only one will help you be the you you’re meant to be.

From growing up with social media, I’ve learnt a lot about the expectations placed on us women to be perfect. It’s delusional to say the least. We worry about the likes on a post, or the comments on our outfits. But why? Because we seek love for ourselves that we don’t already have. This may be from the growing expectations or the judgement we face daily but none of that should matter as you are you and that’s the importance. The only person holding you back from being the best version of yourself is you. I’ve learnt that the hard way. The panic thinking you’re not the right person for the job, the doubt that what you like isn’t the same as everyone else and the constant battle with your mind that you need to be better. It’s all an illusion that you present yourself. It doesn’t need to be like that. People paint self-love as being vain or narcissistic but, it is what it says on the tin: Self-Love. It’s one attribute we need to realise how strong we are. It’s time we stop being afraid of it.

It’s commonly said that ‘you’ll never actually love someone if you can’t love yourself’ and in a sense, this is true. How will you know what you like if you pretend to be someone you’re not? You need to learn to impress yourself before others as YOU are the only one who matters. Wear what you want to wear, don’t give into the social pressure to be a certain way. You are you and that’s the key to self-love: Love the version of yourself you were born to be.

To find yourself is one of the most exciting parts of life. Its to finally be happy in the skin you were given. If I was to wish anything on anyone, it would be to finally love yourself the same way someone could love you. No matter what happens, you are strong, important and are the only person in control of your happiness. Remember how much that matters.

Much love,


I’m Jessica Johnson, the author of the blog Lifestyle Addict. I’m a 21-year-old just writing about what I love and what I do in my life whilst making my way through education and a full-time job. My goal is to inspire people as much as possible and hopefully help where I can. I like to blog about beauty, my lifestyle and what I do and review almost everything and anything. I hope to encourage people to embrace their true selves and do what makes them happy. Individuality is what inspired me to start my blog and I hope to inspire others through this.

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7 thoughts on “Guest Post|Importance of Self-Love

  1. I only speak what I know. And most of the time other women usually can relate. We tend to pick away and focus on the negative things about ourselves. It’s so much easier to focus on the things that we hate about ourselves, instead of the great things we have to offer to the world.

    Oh man, I could sit and cry about the worst parts of me, and set up a full pity party for others to join. It got pretty old and draining after a while.

    Eventually I just started looking at the things that I actually liked about myself, stopped comparing, and starting nurturing the best part of myself, as well as the not so good. If you can’t love yourself then how in the world do you expect someone else to do it?


  2. Important, post that I’m sure must be relatable to all of us women out there! Who hasn’t felt insecure and tried to be someone else to fit in at some point in their lives? I think I’m on the right way to love myself now and it feels so much better! Thanks for tackling this topic!

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  3. I love this! My wife has real issues with body image (despite the fact she’s utterly beautiful) and I just wish she could learn to love herself, even just that extra 0.1% would make a huge difference. She has recently cut out a lot of who she was following on Instagram as it was making her feel really conscious. It’s a smart move I think.

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    1. You know we hope you’re wife is okay with you sharing 🙄 but you made a really great point. Sometimes it’s the people that you surround yourself with who can make you feel really good or really bad about yourself. A lot of women tend to struggle with self-love. Thanks for commenting! 😍


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