Recently VIBE reported comedian, talk show host, entrepreneur and actress, Mo’Nique’s point of view towards allowing or not allowing her husband the opportunity to explore options outside of the marriage. Take a moment and read what Mo’Nique had to say about how she felt about giving hubby a “pass to cheat” below:
Mo’Nique referred to the vows couples take when they get married, stating that they should be prepared to “live by them,” and that husbands and wives should be best friends. Advising couples to be honest, the actress noted that people cheat because some need is not being met:
“The person that you stood up and you said ‘for better, for worse, sickness and in health, richer or poorer’ you took those vows in front of the universe. If you don’t live by them, then maybe you shouldn’t have taken them. And when you say ‘a pass to cheat’… see when you’re with your best friend and you say to your best friend ‘I’m having these feelings about this person, sexually and I wanna share it with you’.. when you’re best friends, you can have those open and honest conversations. Often times people cheat because of something they’re not getting. But when you have open and honest dialogue and you say we’re just human beings and all these people on the face of the earth, do you think my eyes won’t ever say ‘he’s fine’ or ‘she’s attractive’. Now if you wanna go further with it, let’s be honest enough to have those conversations. What is it about that person that you find that you wanna sleep with? Because they may give you something that I’m simply not willing to do. And if that’s the case, how can I be mad? Because I’m not gon’ do it. Should I deprive you of not having it? That’s when the relationship is real real.”
What’s the real point of a marriage with an open relationship or having a “pass to cheat”? Maybe we’re too old fashion but shouldn’t marriage be built from the principles and standards from ancient history? Oops not the ancient marriages that allowed men to have multiple wives but the more modern marriages where the marriage was built on one man and one women. Women do you think this is an attempt for more women to keep their men happy? Would you feel comfortable sharing your husband or giving him the pass to cheat every now and then?